Not giving a fuck does not mean you don't care. It means not wasting your time on things (or feelings and thoughts) that are holding you back.
Instead of resolutions this year consider a shift in your mindset. Do what you love. For real. Don't take things personally. Quit being a control freak. Throw perfectionism out the window. Scrap the trivial. Stop worrying about what people think of you.
"In my life, I have given a fuck about many people and many things. I have also not given a fuck about many people and many things. And those fucks I have not given have made all the difference." - Mark Manson
Fifteen years ago we all thought the world was going to end for Y2K. When the clock turned 2000 Guess what? Nothing happened. The grid didn't go down, no apocalypse, nothing. Then in 2012 the Mayan calender said all kinds of stuff about the end of the 26,000 year cycle, aliens were supposed to rant, and shit was supposed to hit the fan. You know what? Nothing happened.
Sure, things are happening that we should give a fuck about, but be careful how many fucks you give and only give a fuck for the right things.
It reminded me of my favorite section of Emerson's Self-Reliance:
Don’t try to figure out what behavior or opinion will make you popular with others. It is disrespectful to the grandeur of who you really are. It is selling your soul for the low outcome of manipulating the superficial affections of others—as if you needed their approval.
Be what you are. Be indifferent to the judgments of others, not with a thoughtless or angry defiance, but with the firm knowledge that you are a vital expression of something unspeakably intelligent and good. Forget about what you have been before. Forget what you’ve said before. Be what you are now, even if it “isn’t you”— that is, even if it seems to contradict what you or others have pigeonholed you to be. Be free. Be the creative force on the crest of the mighty wave of this very instant.
It is a healthy attitude to consider conciliatory behavior beneath you. In other words, don’t try to gain goodwill by displaying pleasing behavior. Don’t try to beg for peoples’ approval. That is the attitude of someone who doesn’t feel he has a right to be what he is, to feel the way he feels, to think what he thinks. But you DO have the right. Be yourself.
..Excerpt from Emerson’s Self-Reliance Essay translated into modern English by Adam Khan
So go out there and enjoy not giving a fuck, and only giving fucks to the things that need your attention.
And .... if you give a fuck, maybe you could share or "like" this post.